Monday, June 4


This past weekend (June 1-3), my parents were here in Kansas City for their Annual District Convention of Jehovah's Witnesses. This year's theme was "Follow The Christ".

I wonder if any of these points were mentioned?

Jesus did not shun those who were shunned due to religious decrees. Not one.

The first person Jesus (supposedly) told as to his supernatural identity was the Samaritan woman at the well, who had slept with 7 men and was shacking up with another man. Jesus put this horrible sinner first and never condemned her at all.

The only group ever condemned directly by Jesus own mouth according to the traditional gospels were the religious leaders who put laws before people that were too much for them to bear. (read up on Matt 23 and compare to the Governing Body)

I'm guessing not, seeing as how my parents didn't even call to see their only grandchildren.

Exactly what do my parents think I'm going to tell my children when they ask me why their grandparents never see them? That mommy did something really really bad and this is her punishment? That mommy left the only true God and condemned myself and them to destruction at Armageddon?

I'll tell you what I'm going to tell my children. I'm going to tell them that their grandparents love them the best that they can, but they belong to a religion that forbids them to have any contact with their only daughter because I dared to leave the church I was raised in. I dared to be an independent thinker and dared to question the authority of 9-12 MEN. I refused to let MEN tell me who I could and could not talk to or associate with. I refused to let MEN tell me, that because I was born a woman, I would always be a second-class citizen.

I refused to be a victim my whole life, never thinking that I was good enough for God.

I refused to lie about who I am to fit into their small mold of what is acceptable. I am so much more than that. According to them, God created each and everyone of us, but yet to follow God, we're not allowed to reach our full potential.

I cry for my children for the loss of their grandparents, whom they will most likely never know.

I cry for myself for the loss of my parents, for their love requires them to love the law of men more than their daughter.

I cry for my parents who will never know just how beautiful and wonderful their grandchildren truly are.

I cry for my brother who will never realize his dream of a Masters in Physics because to do so would take too much time away from his God (not to mention would completely destroy his faith and make him as evil as me).

My parents and brothers are more than a religion, but the chance to know them as people has been stolen from me.


Spyder said...

My husband was forced as a child to go door to door since his parents were JW. His mom turned around one day 1/2 way up someone's sidewalk & went home, leaving her husband & two sons standing there. She soon after left & divorced my father in law. He remained a JW all is bitter life (he passed a few years ago). All of that left a bitter taste for structured religion in my husband's mouth. He is very supportive of my faith, catholic. But then I'm not the usual type.

The best thing for you to do is spend time with your husband's family & develop a good group of friends that help fill the void. I know it won't be the same. But people who love you & gather around you are family, blood or not. Peace to you!

Janet said...

Spyder, I have surrounded myself with my "family-by-choice". My MIL is the best ever, and I have 'adopted' parents, a sister, and at least two brothers.

Unfortunately, my daughter's 1st birthday and my parent's (non)visit have gotten me down quite a bit.

I hope your husband's mother was able to keep in contact with her children after she left the church.

Spyder said...

Yes, my MIL is in constant communications with her 2 sons. I'm sure they wish she would just back off a bit. I know she means well. She became a catholic years ago (before youngest son came out). She doesn't go any more as she has issues with the high ups in the Catholic church (their issues with gay people).

I'm so glad that you have your "family-by-choice".I may have to "borrow" that term some day in a post.
Sending you a big hug!